It may not surprise you to learn that more and more older women are seeking out men 10-20 years younger than themselves for romance and partnership.
You may have also come across the phrase Couger, which some of these woman have proudly dubbed themselves.
Celebrity cougars such as Sadie Frost and Patsy Kensit have led the trend in the UK. Hollywood has also embraced couples such as Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher who share a 15 year age gap.
But the big question is why? What it is about young men that drives these women wild? The answer may surprise you.
At first, it may seem that just passion pulls these couples together in a typical Mrs. Robinson scenario: older woman seduces younger man to satiate her sexual appetite.
However, this is only part of the equation. No one will deny that an older gal maybe more appreciative of a younger man’s toned abs than her 20-something counterparts, but there is more to the story. Yes, she may actually want you for your personality.
Many cougars are looking for a young man to bring fun and excitement into her life. According to a popular internet dating site targeted at older women who seek younger men, finding a partner who is up for adventure was a big reason to go for a more nubile partner.
Young men are usually less jaded by life and may be more adventurous than older men. Since cougars are usually financially secure and aren’t looking for a partner to provide them with this, they are able to choose one who can fulfil them with the thrills they seek.
Many older woman also enjoy mentoring their partner. Cougars have life experience that younger women simply don’t.
They can use their wisdom to help their young men, while getting a lot back in return. Many young men also enjoy this feature of dating an older lady, which allows them to learn new things and be with a confident woman. Older women generally feel more secure in their own self-image, which is another huge turn on for a younger man.
Pure biology is another factor fueling these romances. Women often live much longer than men and an older woman may want someone who can keep up with her as she ages. Not only are women living longer, they are also able to take better care of themselves than in the past. From gyms to cosmetic surgery, young men are usually shocked at the age of some cougars. Looking stunning at any age is a fact of life for these older women.
If you never thought that Botox could be a great Valentine’s day gift, than think again. Supportive, financially secure and sexy are just a few of the benefits of dating a much older woman. She can teach you new tricks both in the bedroom and outside of it, so get ready for the ride of your life with your very own cougar.
Lancaster, PA Italian, Brown hair and eyes. Been told they are puppy dog eyes. I am 42 6ft 210
Posted by: slimsset | 11/09/2008 at 12:00 AM
i wanna date an older woman.
Posted by: richard | 06/26/2009 at 02:45 PM
I'm a young man just reached 30. The best experiences I've had was with older women. The first was at age 22 she was 42 WOW!!! mind blowing she treat love making like it was going to end, I've never feel so wanted in my life she was a wild hungry sexual being. Through all these experiences I've learned a lot but the greatest lesson of all is encourage honesty, be true to yourself about who you are and what you are about and maintain respect. Now I'm married to the greatest woman I have ever met and It's because of all my past experinces, all the things these women teaches me I know how to give myself without losing myself to all the crap that destroys a good relationship. I other words I grow up pretty fast.
Posted by: Devoughan | 07/01/2009 at 04:06 AM
Unconventional Dating Relationships--
The day is here where the tables have turned on Dating. In the past, it was acceptable for older men to date younger women. Today, it is very acceptable for an older woman to date a younger man. A younger woman whom dates an older man is looking for security and a stable relationship. There is a new breed of men whom are seeking the same. I call these "very smart men!" Whose to say just because a woman is 20 yrs older than a man, that the man will eventually dump her? Sorry, men age much faster than women.
I date a man 20 yrs younger than me. His being young has nothing to do why I date him. I date him because he is a great person, we always have fun together and we make eachother very happy. Because that is the "bottom line!" Men my age (in 40's) are, "set in their ways, jaded, have baggage, and have to pay child support." I am very young for my age and don't want to raise someone else's children. Also, older men do not have a Zest for life!
With the Divorce rate at an all time high, what 60% for first Marriages, and 70% for second Marriages, obviously what we consider "Conventional" is not working. Why does society keep fulfilling the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result? Change!!!
I have a great appreciation for my younger Mate, and vice versa! Maybe that is what is lacking in all these failing Marriages across our Country. Its time for a change! A healthy relationship that is alive! Age does not matter!!!
Posted by: Michelle | 01/19/2010 at 03:57 AM
I so naked right now.
Posted by: bob | 03/22/2010 at 10:17 AM
as far men aging faster than women, medical science proves otherwise. menopause happens to women, not men and look at jaded posh Beckham and then look at very hot david Beckham.. u will see the difference.
Posted by: rahul | 09/19/2011 at 11:26 AM
I love cougars!!! I'm a young man thts 24 an agrees w/ this blog I jus read!!
Posted by: Logan Taylor | 10/11/2011 at 08:20 PM
It's funny I've been longing to date a older woman for about a year. I'm 31 looking for white female age 50-55 for a serious relationship the possibility of marriage if you're out there please contact me. Curcio31@gmail.com ill be waiting :) and please attach a pa
Posted by: allen | 11/26/2011 at 09:17 PM